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Narcissistic triangulation psychology | personality disorders

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narcissists will control a relationship with triangulation

What is relationship triangulation?


First, to understand how to deal with a narcissist you have to understand narcissistic behavior in a relationship with a covert narcissist.

Narcissistic triangulation involves three people with indirect actions and communication that form a vicious triangle of subtle abusers.

In my experience, I had the pleasure of being triangulated as a victim to my daughter’s childcare. 

Keep in mind that I had no idea that my former spouse had signs of being a covert narcissist, it didn’t even cross my mind.  

In fact, I didn’t even know what a Narcissist actually was at this point, let alone the meaning of triangulating.

Becoming a victim to a narcissist triangulation begins with a toxic plan: one person will attack, belittle, abuse and more with the help of an extra party. 

A narcissistic drama triangle can happen to anybody without them actually knowing about it.  

Friends and even your own child can be in the abusive triangle that has been formed by a Narcissist.

The third-party can knowingly, or unknowingly join in on the abusive narcissist’s emotional bullying. 

It is much worse when they know they are only a puppet of control at the hands of a manipulative person.



The narcissist’s tool of madness – triangulation – is a severe mode of alienating people from others that they love.

Triangulation is like driving a wedge between people. This can be done by a narcissistic parent or narcissistic anything. It could be your lover, your spouse, your friend, your boss, your coworker, your neighbour, your grandparent or even the grandparent of your kids.

Dealing with triangulation

For victims of triangulation, learning how to break toxic bonds narcissists have on you


What is emotional triangulation


Gaslighting parents enjoy using toxic triangulation as a manipulative tactic that allows for the control of multiple people.

An extremely delusional, dangerous, and sadistic mind game for a narcissist’s own pleasure.

Obviously, they must have people fight for their approval as every day of their life relies on constant admiration.

Love bombing is a common tactic to lure people in for the long-term, and if you have ever been triangulated you will see this happen to a new partner of your ex spouse.

It’s not easy, but you have to understand that people with a narcissistic personality disorder will not change.

They all have the same narcissistic abuse cycle so stop wasting your time. The need for attention remains the same.

It took me a couple of years to understand how to study narcissists the safest way possible.


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How do you deal with narcissistic triangulation?


In my situation, I was abused by our daughter’s old childcare while a professional manipulator stood back and let them do the dirty work which they were knowingly, or unknowingly doing.

It all depends on how you look at it, personality disorders seem to roll together like a cult.

Be aware if you see sociopath traits.

I was confused about how we started on such great terms…I found out they were only stringing me along with their reference letters:

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This love-bomb stage did not last long as my daughter had marks on her after picking her up several times.

The daycare protected the Mother and said these marks are from her playing with other children.

I immediately requested injury reports and my daughter’s file, but they would give me old and fake documents.

I served them with court papers to get the documents. This turned them into the people they really were.

They call the Ministry on me claiming I “hit” London, I smelt like weed and alcohol, and I am not able to care for the child properly.

Narcissistic abuse syndrome was hitting me hard at this point.

The destructive Sociopath traits were starting to make sense.

Malicious false accusations to push me out of the picture, all as a narcissistic Mother stands back with a smile.

I quickly do a visit with the Ministry and close the file.



Now that the flying monkeys of my ex-spouse have caused damage, she decides to let me know that I am not allowed at the daycare anymore.

Attempting to push me out of the picture with clever parental alienation, and even making her own rules disregarding our court order.   

Yup, a professional at how to triangulate without a sweat.

Unfortunately for these ladies, I would be showing up for my daughter every time. 

My daughter expects me to come regardless of being triangulated by narcissists.

With that being said, I also had a lot more respect in the court as a Father.

I wasn’t buying her new rules.

Obviously, I knew the games that were being played on our daughter. I also knew that they didn’t want to see my face too much longer.

However, that wasn’t my problem.

Breaking free from narcissistic traits


We were kicked out of the daycare and my daughter’s bright smile at her new caretakers is what made it all worth it.

Triangulation in narcissism is extremely dangerous, learning how to outplay a narcissist was a skill I learned the hard way.

A life saving gray rock method from this point on kept me sane but a long journey for narcissistic abuse recovery was ahead of me

Thankfully, my plan worked

A Narcissist can manipulate anybody into believing their lies.

My daughter didn’t have her diaper changed all day when I went to pick her up, and they also made numerous false allegations to keep me from her.

I inflicted narcissistic injury, but that quickly put me back to another battle down the road

Toxic triangulation


In a toxic narcissistic triangulation, a covert narcissist has common family roles that are given out to each family member.

More often than not, the person chosen to be the scapegoat is the most empathetic one in the family.

Why?

Because being the most caring and empathetic person in the family reminds the Narcissist exactly of themselves.

Nobody listened to them either.

A family scapegoat is the one that will call the narcissistic parent out on their abusive acts and understands how to crush a narcissist.

Ultimately, this sets them apart from all the sheep in the family that follow the lead of the Narcissist.

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Triangulation and narcissistic victim syndrome


Bullying the bully, because everybody else is afraid to say a word against the boss.

Everybody in this dysfunctional family triangulation knows that stepping up to the Narcissist is a big no-no.

The scapegoat will be discarded by narcissist and grow into their adulthood believing they are always to blame.

This causes years of mental abuse leading to destructive relationships as grown-ups from constantly being walked all over by people thinking it is normal.

a narcissistic golden child will take great pleasure in supporting a Narcissist in destroying the family scapegoat child’s confidence and self-esteem.

Why?

because unlike the former family scapegoat, a golden child has the delusional personality of the Narcissist.

Nobody knows why there is a vast difference in personalities in this narcissistic relationship.

Personally, I believe this is because the golden child is taught to be entitled as this will give them rewards.

On the other hand, the family scapegoat child was able to see the fake mask above everything else.

This can be common when a parent is separated from the Narcissist but shows positive emotions during their parenting time.

Empathy, love. The one that got away.

It may seem that the golden child has a great childhood regardless of the toxic family triangulation, but the damage to their adult life statistically proves much different.

With that being said, an abuser won’t let their narcissistic supply addiction go so easy


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Your bullies might find out who is the actual abuser, but don’t count on it.

The only thing you can count on is when the third party in the toxic triangulation becomes discarded by the narcissist.

Narcissistic family dynamics remain the same because survivors of a narcissistic sociopath know that you will never be able to fill the void of “good enough” to a delusional parent.

Effects of triangulation and narcissistic parents

  • Being raised by narcissistic parents
  • effects of being raised by a narcissistic parent can prove to be mentally damaging in many ways:
  • Failing to understand the importance of boundaries in relationships
  • Constant searching for external approval in order to feel confident
  • Thinking that the only way to gain other people’s approval and love is by meeting their demands, no matter how high.
  • Post-traumatic stress disorder
  • Opposed to an extreme need for affection
  • Poor decision-making skills
  • Difficulty in understanding what is good or bad; positive or negative
  • Fear of failures

Key Characters Of Triangulation

First described by Dr. Stephen Karpman in the late 1960’s, the Drama Triangle roles of Victim, Persecutor, and Rescuer and their interplay vividly describe the most common strategies human beings use to manage their fear and anxiety.

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In any relationship that a Narcissist is in, it is inevitable that the vicious triangle will always form.

The unfortunate defense mechanism that comes from a bitter childhood of not being “good enough” to their parent(s)

The Victim


  • Unfortunately, a Narcissist can’t mentally process themselves to change their outlook on people, so their delusional state of mind will always play the victim.
  • They insist they don’t deserve all the awful things that life and people have done to them.

The Persecutor


  • someone who is consistently after people to harm and destroy them. In a Narcissist’s world, this is the former spouse.
  • I am positive you have had the unfortunate experience of seeing the narcissistic rage in court on you for no apparent reason.

The Rescuer


  • Believes that they are the superhero, and nobody can survive without them. Generally, this is the new partner of the Narcissist that has discarded you long before you realized it.
  • You weren’t providing enough fuel or meeting their needs so they quietly, “grabbed a new branch” before letting you go.
  • They are unknowingly helping the demon, but will be discarded and left helpless just like you and every other person before you.

The Real Narcissistic Triangulation


Finally, in the real world, we know that the former spouse of the Narcissist is the true victim, and the persecutor is the malicious Mother or Father.

It’s important to note that sometimes the children can be the rescuer in their delusional world.

With that being said, victims of narcissistic abuse symptoms vary for everybody.

Narcissist Parenting takes a lot out of you, and I hope you have the strength to keep your children out of it.

You can only blame yourself for another cycle of abuse passed down in your family tree by a covert narcissist by a heartbreaking narcissistic triangulation


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Narcissism coronavirus pandemic with narcissistic personality

How will a Narcissist use a virus against you?

In a time of scare with the latest pandemic, you still have another war ahead of you


What is the coronavirus?r

Coronavirus disease (COVID-19) is an extremely infectious disease caused by a newly discovered coronavirus and you will find out how narcissism in your life will negatively impact your mental health.

Most people that are infected will have mild to moderate respiratory illness and will come away from it just fine without special treatment.

However, older people, and those with certain medical problems like cardiovascular disease, diabetes, chronic respiratory disease, and cancer are more likely to develop serious illness.

The coronavirus spreads primarily through saliva or liquid from the nose when an infected person coughs or sneezes.

It’s important that you also practice respiratory etiquette and use safe social distancing

At this time, there are no specific vaccines or treatments for COVID-19.


How can narcissist coronavirus pandemic be a problem?


A Narcissist will be a nightmare in our lives with or without the added trouble. People with a narcissistic personality will use COVID-19 to their advantage.

I call it the, “narcissistic coronavirus” but the mind games will be played no matter the scare of the year with this personality disorder.

With that being said, add a little fun into the mix and watch an adult child play.

Narcissism and the coronavirus pandemic is nothing more than a perfect game of supply to a Narcissist.

Attention and sympathy is extremely simple during these times which is a perfect stepping stone to your misery.

You better believe the, “i’m scared” tactic will be used as a toxic hook to the children and everybody close to you.


Your attempts to communicate about the safety of your children will be looked at as, “harassment” as narcissists will smile inside while watching you boil with anger.


The latest pandemic and scare will bring numerous allegations against you.

A narcissist will see this like a shark seeing blood in water and go directly towards it.

Allegations in court calling you unfit to parent your children, and even neglect with calls to child protection.

A covert narcissist is likely to go to the farthest extent with false allegations.

Destroying a narcissist ex is your best bet.

With that being said, even if you are outside of the courtroom a Narcissist will use the coronavirus pandemic to rattle your mental health.

Using smear campaigns and even calls directly to you, you will be harassed and told how to take care of your children.

Moreover, your children can be used as a weapon to easily keep you from them. Learning how to outplay their games is crucial.

Tactics like “social distancing” narcissists will use to not drop them off to you on your parenting days.

While in a Narcissist’s care, parental alienation will be full swing as they tell the children false reasons as to why you didn’t show up to pick them up.

Dealing with narcissism and the coronavirus

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How to handle a narcissist’s abuse during coronavirus pandemic

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During a time of panic, I know how hard it is to deal with a Narcissist that only wants to make your life hell.

However, we must always put our emotions to the side so we can protect our children and our mental health.

Dealing with narcissistic personality disorder means having the right support groups to make sure you are staying healthy.

You will need help during this crisis and there are ways to protect your family from a narcissistic personality.


How to handle narcissists during COVID-19

  • Don’t Panic.

    Everybody’s panicking and the children will feed off of this energy in the wrong way
  • Document Everything

    For use in court when things don’t add up
  • Be Understanding

    If you know your kids are safe that will be your motivation
  • Be the better person

    The more you are annoyed by this, the more a narcissist will feed off your pain.
  • Arrange for phone and video calls

    who knows how long a Narcissist will use the pandemic against you so make sure you have this time with your children
  • Stay busy

    Do the things you didn’t have time for.
  • Online Therapy

    now is the time to get your well-deserved therapy without worrying about catching the virus.

Mental health support for dealing with Narcissists


The coronavirus pandemic is hard enough, nobody knows what is true or false.

Don’t make it harder on yourself by falling into the dark toxic realm of narcissism. It’s what they want.

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How to deal with a Narcissist | Handling Narcissism

How to deal with a narcissistic personality 

To begin, learning the pattern of a narcissistic abuse cycle you are put on by a manipulative narcissist is the best way to learn how to deal with a narcissist.

It is all complex as it’s easy to confuse somebody with a mental disorder like narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) simply as a cocky person who only thinks of themselves.


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However, this is not the best approach when you are trying to figure out how to deal with a Narcissist.

While this is common narcissistic behaviour, there are plenty of traits that need to be examined by a professional before giving somebody this title. 

From gaslighting parents to trauma bonding, a narcissistic personality disorder is a very complex disorder.

We all have a little bit of narcissism in us. 

How boring would this world be if that was not the case?

With that being said, if you don’t agree… you are most definitely the covert Narcissist.

Dealing with the symptoms of a narcissistic personality

Helpguide lists the following as symptoms of a narcissistic personality disorder:

  • Grandiose sense of self-importance. 
  • Lives in a fantasy world that supports their delusions of grandeur. 
  • Needs constant praise and admiration. 
  • Sense of entitlement. 
  • Exploits others without guilt or shame. 
  • Frequently demeans, intimidates, bullies, or belittles others.

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How to deal with a narcissistic parent?

I have been dealing with a narcissistic mother for many years, and I have 5 techniques to help deal with your nightmare.

1 Don’t even bother dealing with a Narcissist

  • Turn around, run, and don’t look back
  • Narcissists are extremely bitter and spiteful, they will use tactics like parental alienation to have you lose everything you love. 
  • If you don’t have to get involved, simply leave.  However, we all know that sometimes it is necessary.

2 Set boundaries without actually telling them

  • Example: if you are told to do something at a certain time, either don’t do it or do it on your own time. 
  • They don’t like working hard for things, so they are likely to quickly get the point, and deal with it
  • A Narcissist will not ever do as you say.  Even if they agree, they will not actually do it.
  • This is healthy for you to cut yourself from the toxic control of a Narcissist.

3 Do not ever show that you are frustrated

  • The minute you show that they are getting to you, it is game over
  • Especially after inflicting narcissistic injury, a Narcissist loves to see you having a bad time
  • Stand your ground, and put on a fake smile.  This will kill them inside knowing they can’t get to you and they are not even close to being a part of your daily life.
  • Breaking the abusive cycle is the first step to your recovery

4 Sacrifice anything that won’t completely ruin your life

  • If you are trying to decide something that is minor, sacrifice it and move on.
  • This will not change the Narcissist just because you did something nice. 
  • Being a part of narcissistic rage in court is not worth it, and it’s best to, “stroke their ego” with a little fuel to keep them calm

5 Continue to show as much empathy as possible

  • If you lose your focus, you will become a negative person.
  • If children are involved, they will see this and mimic the good parent over the bad parent.
  • You build your character, and this will crush your narcissist at your narcissist every time they see you.  Don’t let it get to your head, just do it. 

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How to handle a Narcissist at work

There will always be somebody you can clearly spot as the Narcissist at work. 

They will always try to be the best at work, give you back-handed compliments, create a narcissistic triangulation of co-workers, try to get you demoted or fired, and even take credit for your work.

Here are ways to deal with a narcissist at work that is doing whatever they can to bring themselves up, and others down.

1 Smile and nod your head

  • Sometimes it’s just not worth the battle.
  • If it’s not a necessity for you to work together, you should just do the simple gray rock method

2 Don’t join in on any of the negativity

  • Bullying is common for a Narcissist, they can suck you in without you even realizing it
  • Once you engage in this activity you will be expected to side with them 
  • If you realize you have hurt somebody’s feelings, make it right with that person right away
  • next time you are brought into the bullying, keep a straight face and walk away.  
  • You only become more like a narcissistic supply and feeding them every time you engage.

3 Don’t give out any personal opinions or ideas


  • Taking credit for other people’s work is like breathing for a Narcissist
  • You leave room to be taken advantage of and even a smear campaign from other co-workers

4 Expose their weaknesses quietly

  • This isn’t for everybody as it can easily backfire.  I love this though.
  • Every Narcissist has a weakness or skill they lack at a job and will avoid doing it.
  • Nudge this person towards this task if somebody calls in sick, watching them avoid it is satisfying.
  • I have met a lot of narcissists at work and learning how to outplay a narcissist without the backlash is a good feeling.

5 Avoid engaging in fights/competition

  • I learned a long time ago to not engage.  
  • A Narcissist will sabotage a task before you even begin
  • Bosses will always respect the person that shows teamwork and keeps their calm.  Supervisors likely have already had a past conflict with a Narcissist, or it’s bound to happen

At last, I know how hard it is parenting with a narcissist who feels the world revolves around them and a co-worker or boss that just wants to come to work to suck away everybody’s happiness.

It is important to show as much empathy as humanly possible, especially when children are around and nasty traits are the only thing they are experiencing.


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You can stop a narcissist from ruining your life and learn the secret techniques to deal with them appropriately.

My daughter is the most empathetic, caring, and positive human being.

Why?

because I swallowed my pride and my daughter followed my lead.

Protect your mental health during this time, and continue to be consistent.  A Narcissist is always up to something, so don’t let your guard down.

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Parental alienation | Child manipulation | child abuse

What are the signs of parental alienation?


To start, unlike physical abuse, psychological and mental harm caused by parental alienation doesn’t leave scars on the skin.

However, they hurt just as much if not more to alienated parents.

The alienation definition is pretty self-explanatory:


Parental alienation is when one parent discredits the other parent to a child or children the two share. For example, perhaps mom tells her child that their dad doesn’t love them or want to see them. Or a dad tells his child that their mom prefers her new family (and kids with a new partner) to them.

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Signs of a rejected parent could start slow and build up unnoticed, or a relationship with the child turn sour very fast.

It will be interesting to see how lawyers and judges adjust to a new “recognized” form of child abuse targeted at alienated parents.

Here are the signs of parental alienation, formerly known as malicious mother syndrome in 1995 and recently became malicious parent syndrome that may be occurring in your family:

  • Will use false allegations in court to put a protection order between the alienating parent, yourself, and children. You will have to remove it and this will take time. If children are being alienated it needs to be dealt with immediately
  • Your children start calling you by your first name. This is also a way of putting your authority down. Slow jabs to your relationship by having your alienated child disrespect you.
  • Children may side with the favored parent and refuse visitation. A Child will likely talk a lot about the alienating parent and mention past hostility or disputes you may have had with your former spouse.
  • The alienating parent won’t communicate about medical appointments, behavior issues at school, etc.
  • Uses power and control on the alienated child’s personal belongings. They will send the child in older clothes that they have no use for anymore and will not allow children to bring any toys to your house
  • Involving schools, daycare, children’s parents and any relationship you have with smear campaigns so they look down on you.
  • Coaches child to call a step-parent “Daddy” or “Mommy”

What is parental alienation syndrome?


Common signs of somebody suffering from this syndrome are:

  • Attempts to punish the targeted parent though alienating their children from the other parent and involving others or the courts in actions to separate parent and child
  • Seeks to deny children visitation and communication with the other parent and involvement in the child’s school or extra-curricular activities;
  • Lies to their children and others repeatedly and may be involved in criminal activity

The nature of alienation is commonly used in narcissist parenting 

Of course, Fathers can inflict narcissistic injury and get revenge on a narcissist with their ways of own ways of parental alienation.

Badmouthing and calling a Mother by their first name is just a few that can be used against a mother instead of learning the proper technique of how to crush a Narcissist

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With the court system so one-sided about nurturing Mothers, not many cases involve withholding a child from the Mother. 

However, there are plenty of Fathers that were unknowingly raised by narcissists

It seems parental alienation is going to be recognized as abuse, but how much will have to be proven before we see a difference?

It could create more hostility, family violence, and false allegations if it is not implemented correctly.

My former spouse will continue to try to sabotage my relationship with our daughter any chance she gets.

The most important thing I can do is love my child.

Luckily, the worst part of parental alienation is over for me. Our daughter has a voice now and is very aware of the lying and manipulation her Mother does against me.

I don’t play “victim” I explain thoroughly the importance of being a good person, and an even better parent to my children.


Beat Parental Alienation Syndrome

Parental Alienation is child abuse. Some have even argued it is legalized child abuse because the courts refuse to come near it

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Parental alienation damage to mental health


Secondly, Looking for the proper battered meaning with the significant ties with parental alienation is hard to find on Google.

They will give you the correct definitions but it is incredibly misleading.

The top results show physical violence only with two victims: battered women and battered wives.

Narcissistic personality disorder is incredibly manipulative.

If you are reading this, you likely know all about the narcissistic abuse symptoms.

Here are the top Google results:

Unfortunately, we need more awareness of what we are trying to achieve for the future. 

Putting people in power for child protection and they are only doing the opposite.

Another failed system: Ministry of children and Family development.

You can read more of the abuse on my daughter by the Ministry when I was faced with narcissistic rage in court

It is not a competition, I have a daughter so you better believe I support Battered Women’s Support Services.

However, they have also made men look like something they aren’t in court by suddenly showing up as “support” on a trial date.


Broken system overlooking parental alienation for the true battered meaning

Everybody deserves support and there is no doubt about this. But at what point do we recognize the system giving the edge to one spiteful parent over another?

The Narcissist’s playground: family court. A Support worker throws the Father off guard. Who’s battering you?

especially with a no-contact order between the parents? Oh right, the narcissistic triangulation.

I have seen this happen in many court cases, including mine.

With that being said, I think it is safe to say that the trial is over before it started. Do they review the history of lies proven on paper?

They don’t check anything their eyes refuse to see.

Unfortunately, there are a few cases of women who are being battered. For this reason, I am all for supporting the cause even if it is just one person.

Coincidentally, the battered meaning is the subtle parental alienation; a mask a Narcissist or narcissistic Mother can pull off with no sweat.

There should be more of an intake process. This is to prevent false allegations and a “one” up at a court date.

However, I did eventually learn how to deal with a narcissist.

Narcissistic spouses are increasingly using support workers by their side in court to play the victim with parental alienation right in their corner.

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Parental alienation and the impact on mental health

Secondly, the physical abuse of women is a disadvantage. The physical strength of the two is much different.

Obviously, with the increase of covert narcissist traits in guardianship cases involving children, both genders are losing.

It’s not uncommon to see greed, power, entitlement and more with such malicious parents.

Unfortunately, I have years battling delusional minds that have shown me the true meaning of narcissism

“I came in and she battered me. There was bleeding. My nose was bleeding, my shirt was ripped. When things had calmed down, she said: ‘Would you like a coffee?’ She said: ‘I’ll make us a coffee, you change your shirt’. “

Jim – abused and battered man interviewed at BBC

It’s an unfortunate battle to see children against the other parent out of spite.

It’s very easy to link the cause of depression in men with a narcissistic spouse.

The key is finally learning the steps to disarm them and protect your children

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Painful parental alienation that represents the battered meaning

I have felt the pain of mourning the loss of your children when they are still alive.

It’s child abuse, and that is the battered meaning that hits home for me. I quickly learned how to outplay a narcissist.

Therefore, men have much less support and options to reconnect with their children for narcissistic abuse recovery and more needs to be done about parental alienation.

Gaining knowledge of Sociopath traits is also crucial as symptoms vary according to your situation. 

A narcissistic Sociopath is even more complex because it has all the disorder traits mixed into one person, and creates a disaster for everybody involved.

Battered Woman Syndrome and parental alienation

“Battered woman syndrome is serious, which is why it’s taken into account in homicide cases when women murder their abusive partners.”
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It’s a lot easier for a woman to claim this abuse over a man.

I mean, just look at the actual term.

Luckily, the World Health Organization is about to finally start recognizing parental alienation as child abuse.

For the record, parental alienation has always been part of family law. I have shown and fought for it but judges choose to ignore it:

“Section 4AB Family Law Act, 1975: Definition of family violence etc.  (1)  For the purposes of this Act, family violence means violent, threatening or other behavior by a person that coerces or controls a member of the person’s family (the family member ), or causes the family member to be fearful.


•(2)  Examples of behavior that may constitute family violence include (but are not limited to): •(i)  preventing the family member from making or keeping connections with his or her family, friends or culture”

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Human rights for all of us no matter the gender.

Lastly, it is not about Father rights or Women’s rights. It’s about human rights.  Mothers to Fathers, Grandparents and all extended families.

Nobody should have to suffer any kind of abuse. Our children are our future, and it’s time we work together. Hate will never help our children build their character for the future.

Keeping silent is just as much harm. We have to see how Battered Women’s Support Services rearrange their intake process; to not help the parental alienation family court is slowly starting to recognize.


Is it possible you are alienated from your children with no consequences on the abuser?

Why is it that the people chosen to protect our children from emotional harm continue to ignore parental alienation?

It seems that children are on the rise of having mental health issues because of the chaos of trying to work with narcissistic parents.

Judges at family court trials will tell you that they think there is alienation happening but quickly turn a blind eye.

My former spouse and her flying monkeys, a former daycare, have tried numerous times to alienate me with an abusive triangulation.

False accusations, brainwashing, and manipulation on our daughter was the toughest part of my journey.

Fortunately, there is a huge breakthrough by the World Health Organization which has started a long-overdue new form of child abuse to finally be recognized.

Yes, finally parental alienation and you can read more about the story on CTV news

Surviving Parental Alienation is an excellent book for resources that stopped child abuse on my daughter.


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Raised by Narcissists | narcissistic parenting

The truth when raised by narcissists


To begin, people are quick to say they are raised by Narcissists whenever they are confronted with their narcissistic behavior.

Parents become the blame game to ease themselves of shame.

However, this is not always the case.

It’s important to educate yourself on the narcissist parenting and how people with a personality disorder parent their children.

With that being said, you will get plenty of useful information regardless of your unfortunate situation:

  • living with, or grew up living with a Narcissist as the parent(s)
  • spouse or former spouse is showing narcissistic personalities

if somebody around you seems to be showing symptoms, you want to clarify this immediately so you can disappear from their lives. 

forever.


Abusive childhood

How do you know if you were raised by Narcissists?

But behind closed doors, all pretense falls away. Only you, their child, knows what it’s like to endure their cold shoulders for days on end over a minor infraction, or bear the brunt of constant, age-inappropriate demands for perfection and strength. You know what it’s like to be parented by a narcissist.

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Along with narcissist triangulation, there are complex things to understand when being raised by toxic people.

Obviously, with all the surprising and shocking threats that come up with narcissistic personality disorder, narcissistic parents have two routes of travel with their children. 

They are the following:

Ignoring Narcissists

  • Complete neglect and show no care about their children’s lives.
  • Children are a threat to them, so the less that they are taking care of their children, the better off they will feel about themselves

Engulfing Narcissists
  • Shows obsessive involvement and care, the complete opposite of the former.
  • Forces their self-image onto their children, and will make sure they do not stray away from this without punishment. 

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What symptoms arise from being raised by Narcissists?


Certain feelings and emotions go through people when they are knowingly, or unknowingly raised by Narcissists. 

Such as the following:

1. You aren’t able to put your needs first

  • Leads to narcissist triangulation by bosses, significant others, and everybody around you as you always feel the need to please others
  • Can’t feel satisfied with anything you do for yourself

2. Constantly over-sensitive

  • As you grow into adult life, you will become emotional for the slightest things.  This allows you to be easily manipulated in relationships.
  • Unable to hold down a job

3. Over-Competitive

  • In some cases, this may turn positive, but for the most part, you will lose your self-worth trying to win at everything.  And it won’t ever be good enough for you
  • Caused by narcissistic parents being critical of every move, with little to no encouragement in your childhood

4. Shy and unable to speak up

  • No confidence
  • Do not want to start any fighting, even if it is a delusional thought. 
  • Caused by manipulation and abuse of “never being good enough”

5. Depression and anxiety

  • From being neglected and discarded
  • If one parent has a lot of relationships, this can be caused by becoming attached and detached from numerous “Mother” or “Father” figures
  • Realizing you were raised by Narcissists.  The sudden eye-opener can also be traumatizing.
  • Badmouthing, brainwashing against other siblings and/or your other parents;

If you are feeling any of these symptoms, it’s best to get help immediately to help you on your road to narcissistic abuse recovery.

Now, let’s dig deep into the cause of Narcissist parenting and how you can minimize the scars associated with the narcissistic abuse syndrome.


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Knowledge is power

control the manipulation mindset that has unfortunately fallen down your family tree.

“What I found that was most important to me, however, was that in revisiting those old traumas, I became free of their emotional power. I sobbed through the writing of virtually every one of them and, re-reading them later, I cried again. And again. And then I realized that, because I was safe while writing and re-reading them, because I was not in the grip of the fear that characterized my interactions with my mother, those tears were healing.”

Narcissist’s Child – The Blog

I highly suggest reading more into her blog to relate your situation to the narcissistic personality

Approaching a narcissistic Sociopath and understanding Sociopath traits can save you time and horrific situations in the long run.


Healing from narcissistic abuse

From the unique challenges daughters of narcissistic fathers face to the ways in which adverse childhood experiences affect our brains, Shahida Arabi’s insightful essays resonate deeply with those who have been raised by narcissistic parents. In this new essay collection, Arabi explores how narcissistic abuse in childhood can set us up for trauma repetition in adulthood

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How to heal from the narcissistic parenting abuse


Let’s face it, focusing on the past will not help you heal or mend any relationships that may have been broken from this disorder.  Outplay your narcissist at their own game is the secret!

I can not give you advice on this, but I can direct you to the best information.

Perhaps you have suffered from a borderline disorder of the sort, and are giving out unnecessary negative energy to the ones you love?

Maybe you aren’t sure if you have any disorder. This is common when in an abusive narcissistic relationship, where you are tangled in a manipulation tactic of…

“is it me that’s the problem?”

“am I crazy?”

There are various tools on our page to help you with manipulation and the abuse it causes.

Gaining knowledge on how to crush a narcissist is an ongoing battle if you so choose!

There is also a chance of being mistakenly called narcissistic yourself and you believe it, with the ugly symptoms associated with it.


Education on being raised by Narcissists and supporting mental health awareness


Finally, if this is the case for you I highly recommend the Creative Aspirationz blog.

The passion of someone that decided to take control of their mental health. and not let society beat them down.

How inspiring that she is still able to function (in my opinion, better than us) and still raise awareness.

I read this blog quite a bit because it gives me hope that my chaos will get better. My hopes may run much too high of my ex-spouse.

The realization of the abuse and destruction that is harming our daughter should be simple. It’s not. 

My child’s narcissistic Mother doesn’t understand there is help available, but that doesn’t mean I stop trying.

It is my job to understand and work with any mental disorder that comes our way. You can protect your family.

Do not inflict narcissistic injury no matter how tempting it may be.   

The abuse will only carry on times two.

I work with what I have before me, and this includes sacrifices from any angle that needs to be shifted.

Nevertheless, it has given me ways to minimize narcissistic abuse symptoms.  Mental disorders that are confused/ignored by society is a real eye-opener!

it’s important to gain knowledge from a true fighter teaching others the same battle that she is winning, regardless of what she thinks. Keep it up!

“I suppose that’s why I get annoyed when others consider me to be narcissistic because of my borderline personality disorder when I’m the complete opposite – I feel too much and love too much and it sends my brain into overdrive in a modernized society although it’s possible to fall in love again for now it’s settling down in my new home ♡”

Creative Aspirationz – The Creative Borderline

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How to deal with a narcissistic husband


A Covert Narcissist Manipulation


Unethical narcissistic behavior


Are you dealing with a covert narcissist who is making your life a living hell?

I can fully understand your pain.

How?

I have been protecting my daughter and I from a narcissistic mother for years.

I know, how could I ever compare the two genders and give you advice?

Because I have been obsessively studying narcissistic personality disorder to keep me sane.

Doing this has helped me get through those tough times I can finally look back on now.

let’s first break all the myths of what a Narcissist actually is.


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Narcissist meaning


People will always go straight to google when they want to learn about…. anything in the world.

Type into google “narcissist” and what’s the first thing that comes up from Oxford dictionaries ?


a person who has an excessive interest in or admiration of themselves.
narcissists think the world revolves around them”

I bet somebody would read such a simple definition and move on with their life.

I even did at one point because i was uneducated.


In my opinion, it doesn’t even come close to what a narcissist is.


The unfortunate thing is that people could be dealing with not only a covert narcissist, but a frightening narcissistic sociopath
and not even know it.


Why? because google gave the “top answer” that is far from the real definition.


Society has made the world believe that being narcissistic isn’t even all that bad.

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a covert narcissist loves a fake image of themselves

Let’s see a clearer definition of what you are dealing with.

Helpguide defines the narcissistic behavior exactly as it should be.

The word narcissism gets tossed around a lot in our selfie-obsessed, celebrity-driven culture, often to describe someone who seems excessively vain or full of themselves.
But in psychological terms, narcissism doesn’t mean self-love—at least not of a genuine sort. It’s more accurate to say that people with narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) are in love with an idealized, grandiose image of themselves.


Protecting your kids from narcissistic abuse


Unfortunately, a covert narcissist is going to do whatever it takes to create narcissistic children.

In fact, sometimes it just happens by fate they will grow up to be just like your husband no matter how much you do to prevent it.

This is why narcissistic personality disorder is so dangerous.

With that being said, some people are just born with an amazing amount of emotional empathy.


Narcissistic children

Learn the info you need in order to help your child overcome his/her challenges in life!

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Fate has been on my good side because a narcissistic mother tries to change our daughter every chance she gets.

With that being said, our daughter shows more empathy than I could ever ask for.

I can still take a little credit though, right? Of course.

But I don’t care because she is understanding very early on how to outplay a narcissist.

Narcissistic abuse should not be ignored

5 beautiful ways to deal with narcissistic traits

1. Don’t let them see you sweat.

  • You are going to sweat whether you like it or not. The manipulations never end.
  • if you are not phased by their toxic behavior you will see them sweat from you not paying any attention.
  • Don’t call them out. This will only show you are giving them attention and you are back to square one.

2. Don’t send messages back with the children

  • A covert narcissist loves to send messages with people you love, and who love you.
  • The most horrible things will be said about you, and the children will even repeat it.
  • Your job? Be calm. Have an honest talk about what was said about you. Not only will you gain a lot of trust from your kids, they will eventually see what the right thing to do is down the road.
  • Successfully pulling this off means you can stop the family violence that has burdened your family tree.

3. Setting boundaries with action

  • A Narcissist will not ever see your side of anything. You have to set boundaries to a point of what they have to do.
  • Co parenting with a covert narcissist involves a lot of work.

4. Keep conversations short and straight to the point

  • This took me a while. It will take you a long time as well. Why? Because your ex knows every button to push.
  • You will get sucked in. Walk away.

5. If he is not willing to get help, you need to prepare your escape.

  • Let’s be honest, he isn’t even sane enough to think he has a problem.
  • if you are one of the very few that changes a Narcissist for the better than let me know so I can go watch pigs fly…

What a Narcissist does at the end of a relationship


At last, you have a long road ahead of you.

If you are planning to leave, be prepared for a massive adult temper tantrum.

To be honest, I am sure you are already waiting to be discarded by your narcissistic husband.

He has likely moved on, to somebody else. You probably don’t want to hear the truth.

You are hanging onto something that isn’t even there.

Caring for an illusion of somebody that never existed.

Understanding how to deal with a covert narcissistic husband is also knowing how NOT to deal with them.

If kids are involved, there are plenty of narcissistic abuse products to keep your family safe.


Divorce a covert narcissist

Exposure of corrupt judges and lawyers in the court room

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Female narcissist revenge and manipulation

Narcissistic abuse and personality disorders

The hidden scars deep down inside you that nobody wants to hear about is just one of a million reasons to get revenge on a narcissist.

These emotional manipulators seem to have secret techniques to draw you back into their toxic world of narcissist abuse. Click To Tweet

Narcissistic supply is always the goal for any narcissistic personality  They are nothing without it.

Unfortunately, this involves love bombing.


What is love bombing?

Precious and convincing sweet talk or amazing gifts to lure you in

Shortly after, an unexpected massive blow to your self-worth and confidence as they violently devalue and discard you.

The cycle will repeat and victims of the manipulative abuse make people stay in a relationship with the narcissist because they are addicted to the emotional rollercoaster.

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Best revenge when divorcing a narcissist

If you are divorcing your partner in court, you are going to need to learn the techniques of emotional manipulators.

The mask of a narcissist might seem obvious to you by now, but don’t think for a second that others will see the same as you.


When rejected, as when you ask for a divorce or fall in love with someone else, your narcissistic soon-to-be-ex will quite possibly get aggressive and downright scary. Narcissists, when they feel unwanted, don’t run away from hurting innocent people, like your children.

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Narcissists will take your power and strength in a mental health fight to the death, you will need to learn how to outplay a narcissist at their own game.

Unfortunately, they won’t break a sweat as they have manipulated lawyers and even judges against you.

The power of a covert narcissist should not be taken lightly.


Revenge on a narcissist in divorce court?

Learn More about the corruption of judges in divorce court and what your ex-spouse’s lawyer will hide from you for a “win” to make you lose everything you have


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How to get revenge on a narcissistic Sociopath


It’s no secret that there are many dangerous traits in a narcissistic Sociopath, so you will want to approach getting revenge with care.

Not only do these narcissist demons lack empathy, but they also have the added grandiose self-admiration.

This is a deadly mix of destruction.

You need to get away from these sadistic people and do not try to help them or change them.

With that being said, here are other ways of getting revenge on a narcissistic Sociopath:

  • Ignore them and stay no contact
  • Raise awareness on your experience to help others
  • Live your life and stay busy doing the things you love
  • Be successful
  • Be happy knowing a sociopath couldn’t make you their pathetic victim for life. And they definitely will.


Seeking female narcissist revenge and injury


It is very easy to unknowingly abuse your children at the hands of a female Narcissist that is causing you pain in family court.

You know you are the better parent, and your children should see the demon that you finally exposed.

Narcissist no contact revenge is the first thing on your mind?

The game of learning the tactics for revenge on a narcissist to get even with crushing revenge is a battle you might pull your family into.

Emotions will make you so heartless you won’t even see a child’s emotional pain.

Rightfully so, you might obsessively force feed this to your kids in hopes for your sanity to finally return.

Your intentions might mean well, but over-doing this is extremely damaging to a child.

You are forcing them to pick sides between two people they love. The unfortunate thing is that they still love the narcissistic parent

This will only turn against you as the Narcissist uses you as their puppet to play the “victim” game; painting your picture as the crazy one….again.

This puts you back to square one.

Instead, get the ultimate facts on how to get even with your narcissist and handle manipulation\

Get the untold truth now, and go even further with revenge.

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Narcissistic Abuse Recovery | emotional trauma

What does narcissistic abuse do to you?


Recovering from physical abuse in a relationship is a tough thing to do, to say the least, but have you ever tried to go through narcissistic abuse recovery?

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It’s lonely. 

The aftermath of narcissistic abuse will have you running in circles trying to fill emotional voids.

Putting on bandaids on scars you can’t even explain to other people unless they have gone through the same experience.

You will hear the following things said to you, over and over, and will drive you mad as you go through narcissistic abuse recovery:

  • Move on
  • Get over it
  • Man up
  • There’s plenty of better people out there
  • Get out and go have some drinks
  • You’ll be fine

Here’s a fun fact: The people that are saying these statements have not been in the narcissistic abuse cycle by a Narcissist as you have, because all of these statements don’t work on your recovery long term.

They might temporarily make you feel better, but in the long run, feelings after narcissistic abuse will only worsen as you push the feelings deep down inside.

The storm is slowly brewing for the explosion that you may or may not have already experienced.

You don’t feel like yourself.

You have gotten over exes before but it just wasn’t this hard.

The reason?

Being trauma bonded to the narcissist and a couple of drinks with some friends won’t be enough to fix your situation.

If you have a difficult, selfish, and unemotionally available loved one and feel like you have less self-confidence, have less independence, or have given up your family, friends, hobbies, or a career for this person, you may be dealing with narcissistic abuse.

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How do you recover from narcissistic abuse?

I have been a victim of narcissistic abuse myself, and it is not easy to recover on your own. 

Luckily, I have my daughter, the main reason for my existence, by my side as I read through different books of narcissism in my journey to find out how to outplay a narcissist.

For years her narcissistic mother was always one step ahead of me, no matter what I did. 

I even got to the point of inflicting narcissistic injury when my emotions got the best of me.

With that being said, plenty of mistakes only made my narcissistic abuse syndrome a lot worse.  Here are 4 ways to get through your narcissistic abuse recovery:

1. Take responsibility

  • Understand what you have been through, and accept the fact you went through it.
  • A Narcissist can play the game well, and you lost.  Don’t dwell on the fact that this person never existed.
  • You are also responsible for your health, and your children’s health as you go through narcissistic abuse recovery.

2. Realizing you aren’t crazy

  • You will come to the realization that you were dealing with a narcissist, but people always end up staying in the crazy mindset
  • Take a minute to let your brain process the fact that you aren’t crazy, and you were being abused
  • Narcissists are very good at playing mind tricks long after the relationship.  This is especially true if you have children, as they will continue the abuse through parental alienation.

3. Getting out of Denial

  • It is normal for you to stalk the Narcissist after the relationship has ended because you still can’t believe it’s over.  
  • This will only slow your recovery because you are putting your brain on the wrong signals, instead of the right pathway of self-care.

Narcissistic triangulation will continue to slow your recovery, as you will obsess on trying to make people see the Narcissist’s true face.  Do not waste your time on this, they will not listen to you.

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4. Therapy and mental support

  • While friends and family can provide support, it’s best to get a real professional that has studied narcissistic personality disorder.
  • Mental health support is important for narcissistic abuse recovery because of how subtle the abuse can be
  • Online therapy is becoming the newest support group to go to, as it is confidential and can be used in court for any claims of abuse.  Skipping expensive line-ups without leaving your house is the newest bonus as technology rises in our time.
  • Leaving your house can be a struggle, no matter how much abuse you have endured.  It’s important to stay away from any negative people until you are strong enough. 
  • Being hoovered by a Narcissist is also common when trying to recover from narcissistic abuse.

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How do I deal with a Narcissist?

Gaining the knowledge of how to deal with a narcissist is important on your road to recovery. 

I have made mistakes along the way, and I hope you don’t have to.

Study the disorder, and learn how to avoid the abuse in every way possible.  Education is your best friend, and you may find yourself obsessing over your new knowledge.

This is a good thing.

Every piece of information you learn will keep you away from manipulation tactics that have been set up by your Narcissist, who only wants to see you become another victim of narcissistic abuse symptoms.

As you gain knowledge, you will be able to spread the word about the destruction of a narcissistic personality disorder and help others get through the lonely road of a narcissistic abuse recovery through your own negative experience that you turn to a positive.