Narcissistic Triangulation

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What is narcissistic triangulation in families?

To begin, the manipulation that goes into this sadistic act is still mind blowing to me. Narcissistic triangulation involves three people with indirect behavior and communication. One person will attack, belittle, abuses and more with the help of a third party.

The third party can knowingly, or unknowingly join in on the bullying.  It is much worse when they don’t even know they are only a puppet at the hands of your malicious former spouse.  They might find out who is the true abuser, but don’t count on it.  The only thing you can count on is when the third party in the triangulation becomes discarded.

In my situation, I was abused by my daughter’s old daycare all while my female psychopath nightmare stood back and let them do the dirty work. They were perhaps knowingly or unknowingly doing this, depending how you look at it.

A Narcissist can manipulate anybody into believing their lies. My daughter didn’t have her diaper changed all day when I went to pick her up, and they also made numerous false allegations to keep me from her.

First described by Dr. Stephen Karpman in the late 1960’s, the Drama Triangle roles of Victim, Persecutor, and Rescuer, and their interplay vividly describe the most common strategies human beings use to manage their fear and anxiety.

Key Characters Of Triangulation

In any relationship that a Narcissist is in, the triangle will always form. This is a defense mechanism from their unfortunate childhood of not being “good enough” to their parent(s)

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The Victim

Unfortunately, a Narcissist can’t mentally process themselves to change their outlook on people, so their delusional state of mind will always play victim. They insist they don’t deserve all the awful things that life and people have done to them.

The Persecutor

Is consistently after people to harm and destroy them. In a Narcissist’s world this is the former spouse. I am positive you have had the unfortunate experience of seeing narcissistic rage on you for no apparent reason.

The Rescuer

Thinks that they are the superhero, and nobody can survive without them. Generally, this is the new partner of the Narcissist that has discarded you long before you realized it. You weren’t providing enough fuel or meeting their needs so they quietly, “grabbed a new branch” before letting you go.

They are unknowingly helping the demon, but will be discarded and left helpless just like you and every other person before you. It is sad that the battered meaning is something that people will never understand.

The Real Narcissistic Triangulation

Finally, in the real world we know that the former spouse of the Narcissist is the true victim, and the persecutor is the malicious Mother or Father.

It’s important to note that sometimes the child or children can be the rescuer in their delusional world. Narcissistic abuse symptoms vary for everybody. Narcissist Parenting takes a lot out of you, and I hope you have the strength to keep your children out of it.

You can only blame yourself for another cycle of abuse passed down in your family tree


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