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What does narcissistic abuse do to you?


Recovering from physical abuse in a relationship is a tough thing to do, to say the least, but have you ever tried to go through narcissistic abuse recovery?

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It’s lonely. 

The aftermath of narcissistic abuse will have you running in circles trying to fill emotional voids.

Putting on bandaids on scars you can’t even explain to other people unless they have gone through the same experience.

You will hear the following things said to you, over and over, and will drive you mad as you go through narcissistic abuse recovery:

  • Move on
  • Get over it
  • Man up
  • There’s plenty of better people out there
  • Get out and go have some drinks
  • You’ll be fine

Here’s a fun fact: The people that are saying these statements have not been in the narcissistic abuse cycle by a Narcissist as you have, because all of these statements don’t work on your recovery long term.

They might temporarily make you feel better, but in the long run, feelings after narcissistic abuse will only worsen as you push the feelings deep down inside.

The storm is slowly brewing for the explosion that you may or may not have already experienced.

You don’t feel like yourself.

You have gotten over exes before but it just wasn’t this hard.

The reason?

Being trauma bonded to the narcissist and a couple of drinks with some friends won’t be enough to fix your situation.

If you have a difficult, selfish, and unemotionally available loved one and feel like you have less self-confidence, have less independence, or have given up your family, friends, hobbies, or a career for this person, you may be dealing with narcissistic abuse.

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How do you recover from narcissistic abuse?

I have been a victim of narcissistic abuse myself, and it is not easy to recover on your own. 

Luckily, I have my daughter, the main reason for my existence, by my side as I read through different books of narcissism in my journey to find out how to outplay a narcissist.

For years her narcissistic mother was always one step ahead of me, no matter what I did. 

I even got to the point of inflicting narcissistic injury when my emotions got the best of me.

With that being said, plenty of mistakes only made my narcissistic abuse syndrome a lot worse.  Here are 4 ways to get through your narcissistic abuse recovery:

1. Take responsibility

  • Understand what you have been through, and accept the fact you went through it.
  • A Narcissist can play the game well, and you lost.  Don’t dwell on the fact that this person never existed.
  • You are also responsible for your health, and your children’s health as you go through narcissistic abuse recovery.

2. Realizing you aren’t crazy

  • You will come to the realization that you were dealing with a narcissist, but people always end up staying in the crazy mindset
  • Take a minute to let your brain process the fact that you aren’t crazy, and you were being abused
  • Narcissists are very good at playing mind tricks long after the relationship.  This is especially true if you have children, as they will continue the abuse through parental alienation.

3. Getting out of Denial

  • It is normal for you to stalk the Narcissist after the relationship has ended because you still can’t believe it’s over.  
  • This will only slow your recovery because you are putting your brain on the wrong signals, instead of the right pathway of self-care.

Narcissistic triangulation will continue to slow your recovery, as you will obsess on trying to make people see the Narcissist’s true face.  Do not waste your time on this, they will not listen to you.

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4. Therapy and mental support

  • While friends and family can provide support, it’s best to get a real professional that has studied narcissistic personality disorder.
  • Mental health support is important for narcissistic abuse recovery because of how subtle the abuse can be
  • Online therapy is becoming the newest support group to go to, as it is confidential and can be used in court for any claims of abuse.  Skipping expensive line-ups without leaving your house is the newest bonus as technology rises in our time.
  • Leaving your house can be a struggle, no matter how much abuse you have endured.  It’s important to stay away from any negative people until you are strong enough. 
  • Being hoovered by a Narcissist is also common when trying to recover from narcissistic abuse.

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How do I deal with a Narcissist?

Gaining the knowledge of how to deal with a narcissist is important on your road to recovery. 

I have made mistakes along the way, and I hope you don’t have to.

Study the disorder, and learn how to avoid the abuse in every way possible.  Education is your best friend, and you may find yourself obsessing over your new knowledge.

This is a good thing.

Every piece of information you learn will keep you away from manipulation tactics that have been set up by your Narcissist, who only wants to see you become another victim of narcissistic abuse symptoms.

As you gain knowledge, you will be able to spread the word about the destruction of a narcissistic personality disorder and help others get through the lonely road of a narcissistic abuse recovery through your own negative experience that you turn to a positive.