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What is alienated parent syndrome?


Alienated parents that are involved in custody battles know how hard it is to keep a relationship from turning sour because of spiteful parenting alienation in a divorce.

Malicious parent syndrome was formerly known as malicious mother syndrome.

In 1995, Psychologist Ira Daniel Turkat published a research paper in the books of family violence stating malicious acts that came from divorce.


Malicious Parent Syndrome is where the custodial parent, among other things, interferes with the non-custodial parents visitation, manipulates their offspring to hate the other parent.

With that being said, my child’s malicious mother has turned our child against me more than just a couple times.

I have had to look into our daughter’s eyes full of hate towards me no matter what I did. Week after week.

With a week on / week off court agreement, the malicious parent spent every day possible filling our daughter’s innocent and fragile head with negativity.

One parent will use false allegations to stop any visitation rights with your children, using every extra day to force even more hatred towards you.

It is a constant battle of parental alienation syndrome.

Luckily, as our daughter grew older my hard work did pay off as we have an amazing bond together now.


Another symptom is absence of guilt. These children can be very disrespectful and say or do horrible things with absolutely no qualms.

They show a disregard for the parent’s feelings and emotions and it does not bother them at all to do or say these horrible things about one of their parents.

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Your children may become confused, conflicted, angry, anxious, or depressed—and you may feel powerless. But there is help.

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I truly believe my bond with our daughter is even bigger because of an ex-spouse’s malicious mother syndrome.

However, my job has only begun.

Keep in mind, gender has nothing to do with a narcissist. It could easily be husbands or mothers doing these sadistic acts.

Sometimes, families have seen both parents join together to abuse.

As our daughter grows older, I am on a full time duty of protecting her from her Mother who was looking to become an enmeshed parent.


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What is an enmeshed parent?


There are many different reasons that an alienator would want to cause malicious acts. One of those is to link together to turn the family against you.

Thankfully, our daughter chose to not join the team.

Unfortunately, the emotional abuse will still continue as the Mother expects our daughter to continually anticipate and meet her needs. Click To Tweet

Since visitation interference didn’t go as planned, you better believe the unforgiving behavior from a destructive mental disorder will carry on.

Divorcing fathers and mothers showing spiteful actions will begin to show patterns of abuse.

In our daughter’s case, affection will be cut off if she is not able to please these demands.

Homework? Problems at school? figure it out yourself.

In the public eye, these symptoms don’t show so clearly. People will see the ex-husband or ex-wife as an involved parent.

When that game gets boring to them, they will join and manipulate real victims to paint a picture of you as the abuser.

Guilt will be used for manipulation against the children, and this mental abuse will haunt them into their adult life that will bring unhealthy relationships.

Depression becomes a thing of life as children grow up feeling guilty when they are not able to please everybody around them.

It’s our job to give our seeds that extra affection, love, positivity, and support because without us they have nothing.

All while we are walking on eggshells around a parent that could rage at any moment at our child who is learning to be an adult in her own home.

It’s important to spend every minute with your child so they don’t miss their childhood and continue the family violence down the road.


Protect yourself from malicious actions in court

Is your ex-spouse trying to gain custody of your kids? Has he or she launched a campaign to make you look like a bad parent, both in the eyes of your children and the law? You aren’t alone.

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What to do when a parent is manipulating a child?


The main thing to do when these malicious acts are happening, is to not panic.

It’s very easy to get angry at the child when negative things are being said.

With that being said, you will only be helping the narcissist with child abuse, and your child will be turned against you even faster.

Here are ways to start building your case in a divorce (the sooner the better)

Keep a child custody journal

  • how much time you’ve had with your child recently
  • Consistently documented twice a week at least
  • any problems you have during drop off or pick up
  • Things your children have said.
  • Honesty is the only way to show a real pattern
  • A child therapist will make your case stronger and keep you on the right track

Get an attorney that understands narcissism

  • Take your time and go with your gut.
  • You will have to go through a couple consultations with different lawyers.
  • A Narcissist will cause hell in the courtroom with lies
  • If you are low on money, represent yourself but be ready to study family law.
  • Read my post of how to destroy a narcissist in court

Never let malicious parent syndrome win

  • Giving up is not an option.
  • You give in to the parent that will gladly ruin your child’s life forever
  • Don’t feel down when you lose a couple court dates. Keep going back.
  • Don’t be a doormat. Sit your child down and only show love when you hear awful things about you.

Finally, I can tell you from experience that the road to co-parent takes time. In the end, it will be just you supporting your children.

Unless it benefits a Narcissist.

I am making sure our daughter is safe even when she’s not with me on my week.

It’s my duty. This is not her fault.

because nobody would believe me over the Narcissist anyway. Right?

Except one person.

A girl who knows how to handle a complex disorder at such a young age. I am proud but I know there is still work ahead for both of us.

Thankfully, our daughter shows me love you couldn’t even imagine.

At last, here is another resource that helped me get through court and prove everything I thought was impossible to prove

A tell-all book exposing corruption in judges and lawyers in courts.

From a real case. Real attorneys. Real greed.

I highly recommend so you can avoid any surprises.


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Malicious parent syndrome the spiteful actions
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Malicious parent syndrome the spiteful actions
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Parental alienation and other malicious acts caused from one parent to another
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