December 14, 2019
how to deal with a narcissist

How to deal with a Narcissist | Handling Narcissism

Handling and understanding narcissism

To begin, it’s easy to confuse somebody with a mental disorder like narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) simply as a cocky person who only thinks of themselves.

While this is common narcissistic behaviour, there are plenty of traits that need to be examined by a professional before giving somebody this title.

We all have a little bit of narcissism in us.  How boring would this world be if that was not the case?

With that being said, if you don’t agree… you are most definitely the Narcissist.

Dealing with the symptoms of a narcissistic personality

Helpguide lists the following as symptoms of a narcissistic personality disorder:

  1. Grandiose sense of self-importance. 
  2. Lives in a fantasy world that supports their delusions of grandeur. 
  3. Needs constant praise and admiration. 
  4. Sense of entitlement. 
  5. Exploits others without guilt or shame. 
  6. Frequently demeans, intimidates, bullies, or belittles others.

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How to deal with a Narcissist

I have been dealing with a self-involved parent for many years, and I have 5 techniques to deal with your nightmare.

  1. Don’t even bother dealing with a Narcissist
    • Turn around, run, and don’t look back
    • Narcissists are extremely destructive so if you don’t have to get involved, simply leave.  However, we all know that sometimes it is necessary.
  2. Set boundaries without actually telling them
    • Example: if you are told to do something at a certain time, either don’t do it or do it on your own time. 
    • They don’t like working hard for things, so they are likely to quickly get the point, and deal with it
    • A Narcissist will not ever do as you say.  Even if they agree, they will not actually do it.
    • This is healthy for you to cut yourself from the toxic control of a Narcissist.
  3.  Do not ever show that you are frustrated
    • The minute you show that they are getting to you, it is game over.  A Narcissist loves to see you having a bad time
    • Stand your ground, and put on a fake smile.  This will kill them inside knowing they can’t get to you and they are not even close to being a part of your daily life.
  4.  Sacrifice anything that won’t completely ruin your life
    • If you are trying to decide something that is minor, sacrifice it and move on.  
    • This will not change the Narcissist just because you did something nice.  Being a part of a raging nightmare is not worth it, and it’s best to, “stroke their ego” with a little fuel to keep them calm
  5.  Continue to show as much empathy as possible
    • If you lose your focus, you will become a negative person.
    • If children are involved, they will see this and mimic the good parent over the bad parent.
    • You build your character, and this will eat away at your narcissist every time they see you.  Don’t let it get to your head, just do it. 

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How to handle a Narcissist for life

At last, I know how hard it is to deal with an adult child who feels the world revolves around them.

It is important to show as much empathy as humanly possible, especially when children are around. 

My daughter is the most empathetic, caring, and positive human being. 

Why? 

because I swallowed my pride and my daughter followed my lead.

Protect your mental health during this time, and continue to be consistent. 

A Narcissist is always up to something, so don’t let your guard down.

Online therapy is becoming very popular as it can be done right from the comfort of your own home. 

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I will continue to use this service for a long time.  It gives my daughter and me the tools and strength we could never find ourselves.  

Get back to finally feeling like yourself again now!

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