Gaslighting parents and Broken trust in crazy relationships

gaslighting parents

What is psychological abuse from gaslighting?

Whether it is gaslighting parents or just mind-playing in general, the devious act is extremely damaging in a narcissistic relationship

Have you ever felt that you were right about something, but even with facts right in front of your face you slowly begin to doubt the obvious?

You are usually pretty confident in your opinions, but suddenly you can’t trust anything around you that used to make sense. 

You just aren’t feeling the same anymore.

Are you going crazy? It’s possible.

Or you are a victim of gaslighting, a common part of the narcissistic abuse cycle

Thrivetalk gives the following definition about being gaslighted:

Gaslighting is a manipulative tactic in which a person, to gain power and control, plants seeds of uncertainty in the victim. The self-doubt and constant skepticism slowly and meticulously cause the individual to question their reality.

With that being said, gaslighting parents love to use parental alienation on their children because it’s easy it is to have kids believe every word they are told.

Gaslighting in dysfunctional families

A narcissistic personality known as a covert narcissist is common with a gaslighting abusive parent.

Common signs to look for:

  • Playing the victim but being the abuser
  • Form family members to help feel and aid their crazy sympathy tactics
  • Makes the actual victim believe they are the abuser
  • Diminishes their targets mental health until there is no strength left to even think for themselves

It is extremely hard to convince somebody in a gaslighting relationship, or has gaslighting parents, that they are in this toxic abuse.

This is because they are in a trauma bonding stage, and breaking the bond usually requires medical assistance.

Reality of a gaslighting co parent

What is often a common problem in divorce court?

Power and control. This is especially true if you are dealing with a narcissistic sociopath.

However, gaslighting parents do not want to feel any kind of shame towards them.

You will get to see them show nothing but love out in the public, but verbally abusive behind closed doors.

Spite goes hand in hand with narcissistic parenting. Children being psychologically abused will happen as a way to get back at the other parent. My daughter’s narcissistic Mother religiously does this.

If you are not careful, you could be joining in on the abuse without even knowing it.

Children are not able to differ between the right and wrong of a narcissistic parent.

Signs of gaslighting

Consistently saying, “I’m sorry” to avoid hostility, even though you know yourself you are the one being mistreated. 

Over a period of time, the emotional abuse will eventually make you think you are the actual abuser.

I have been dealing with a narcissistic mother for a long time, and I know each and every manipulative tactic.

manipulative tactics

There are terms for individual manipulative techniques and signs of bad behavior to look for:

Withholding narcissistic gaslighting abuse

Refusing to listen or share their emotions

  • “Don’t start that conversation again”

Countering perceptions

Throwing the victim off the actual subject

  • “Think about when you didn’t remember things correctly last time.”
  • “You thought that last time and you were wrong.”

Blocking and Diverting

Another form of throwing victims off the subject when the gaslighter sees they are beginning to lose A narcissistic triangulation can be formed in their defence

  • “Quit bitching”
  • “You’re hurting me on purpose”


Making the victim believe that their thoughts and feelings are not important

  • “That’s more important than us?”


  • “What are you talking about?”
  • “I don’t have to take this”
  • “You’re making that up”

How to deal with gaslighting

It’s not easy dealing with the manipulations, nor is it easy to watch.

The road to narcissistic abuse recovery is a long and lonely one, but you don’t have to face it alone.

Dealing with gaslighting

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If it is you or somebody you know, there are options available to have a convenient therapist right by your side.

You don’t even have to leave your couch!

I recommend Online Therapy, it is the most confidential and safest way to get back to who you were.

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