gaslighting parents

Gaslighting parents | Abusive mind games | emotional manipulation

What is gaslighting abuse?

Whether it is gaslighting parents or just mind-playing in general, the devious act is extremely damaging.

Have you ever felt that you were right about something, but even with facts right in front of your face you slowly begin to doubt the obvious?

You are usually pretty confident in your opinions, but suddenly you are doubting everything around you that used to make sense.  You just aren’t feeling the same anymore.

Are you going crazy? It’s possible.

Or you are a victim of gaslighting, a common part of the narcissistic abuse cycle

Thrivetalk gives the following definition:

Gaslighting is a manipulative tactic in which a person, to gain power and control, plants seeds of uncertainty in the victim. The self-doubt and constant skepticism slowly and meticulously cause the individual to question their reality.

With that being said, gaslighting parents love to use parental alienation on their children for how easy it is to have the child believe every word they say.

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What is a gaslighter personality?

  • A covert narcissist traits is common with a gaslighter, playing the victim but being the actual abuser with no sweat.  Gaslighting parents often form family members to help aid their sympathy.
  • The true victim will believe this for a long period of time and will diminish your mental health over time until there is literally no strength to even think for yourself.
  • The strongest minds can be destroyed until they figure out that they are being abused.  However, it is very hard to convince somebody about it while they are in the trauma bonding.

Why do parents gaslight?

  • Power and control are common reasons for somebody to gaslight.  A Narcissistic Sociopath has a constant need for power, and gaslighting is an easy task for them to gain this mind control for narcissistic supply.
  • A friend could use it in a less harmful way as well just for fun, like moving something you had just put down to somewhere else.  However, consistently doing this for their own pleasure is a red flag.
  • Despite constant negativity and lack of positive comments, the actual victim will look for validation and acceptance from the gaslighter parent especially to avoid a narcissistic rage in court.

What are the examples and techniques of gaslighting parents?

Consistently saying, “I’m sorry” to avoid hostility, even though you know yourself you are the one being mistreated.  However, over a period of time, the emotional abuse will eventually make you think you are the actual abuser.

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There are terms for individual techniques that are used:

Withholding Gaslighting abuse

Refusing to listen or share their emotions

  • “Don’t start that conversation again”
  • “Why are you always trying to throw me off?”

Countering

Throwing the victim off the actual subject

  • “Think about when you didn’t remember things correctly last time.”
  • “You thought that last time and you were wrong.”

Blocking and Diverting

Another form of throwing victims off the subject when the gaslighter sees they are beginning to lose.  A narcissistic triangulation can be formed in their defence

  • “Quit bitching.”
  • “You’re hurting me on purpose.”

Trivializing

Making the victim believe that their thoughts are not important

  • “That’s more important than us?”

Denial

  • “What are you talking about?”
  • “I don’t have to take this.”
  • “You’re making that up.”

Getting help healing from abusive gaslighting parents

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protect yourself with techniques to stop gaslighting parents

 

It’s not easy dealing with the manipulations, nor is it easy to watch.  The road to narcissistic abuse recovery is a long and lonely one, but you don’t have to face it alone.

If it is you or somebody you know, there are options available.  You don’t even have to leave your couch!

I recommend Online Therapy, it is the most confidential and safest way to get back to who you were.

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