What are the signs of parental alienation?
To start, unlike physical abuse, psychological and mental harm caused by parental alienation doesn’t leave scars on the skin. However, they hurt just as much if not more.
It will be interesting to see how lawyers and judges adjust to a new “recognized” form of child abuse within a small time frame.
Here are the signs of parental alienation, also known as malicious mother syndrome, that may be occurring in your family:
- Coaches child to call a step-parent “Daddy” or “Mommy”
- Will use false allegations in court to put a protection order between the alienating parent, yourself, and children. You will have to remove it and this will take time. If children are being alienated it needs to be dealt with immediately
- Your children start calling you by your first name. This is also a way of putting your authority down by having your child not respect you.
- Children side with one parent and refuse visitation. They often talk a lot about the alienating parent and mention past hostility or disputes you may have had with your former spouse
- The alienating parent won’t communicate about medical appointments, behaviour issues at school, etc.
- Uses power and control on the child’s personal belongings. They will send the child in older clothes “that they have no use for anymore” and will not allow children to bring any toys to your house
- Involving schools, daycare, children’s parents and friends with smear campaigns so they look down on you. You won’t know about it, as the narcissistic supply addiction are to keep information from you
What is parental alienation syndrome?
Common signs of somebody suffering from this syndrome are:
- Attempts to punish the divorcing parent though alienating their children from the other parent and involving others or the courts in actions to separate parent and child;
- Seeks to deny children visitation and communication with the other parent and involvement in the child’s school or extra-curricular activities;
- Lies to their children and others repeatedly and may be involved in criminal activity
Badmouthing and calling a Mother by their first name is a few that can be used in their way of how to crush a Narcissist
With the court system so one-sided about nurturing Mothers, not many cases involve withholding a child from the Mother. However, there are plenty of Fathers that were unknowingly raised by narcissists
It seems parental alienation is going to be recognized as abuse, but how much will have to be proven before we see a difference?
It could create more hostility, family violence, and false allegations if it is not implemented correctly.
My former spouse will continue to try to sabotage my relationship with our daughter any chance she gets. The most important thing I can do is love my child.
Luckily, the worst part of parental alienation is over for me. Our daughter has a voice now and is very aware of the lying and manipulation her Mother does against me. I don’t play “victim” I explain thoroughly the importance of being a good person, and an even better parent to my children.
Parental alienation damage to mental health
Secondly, Looking for the proper battered meaning with the significant ties with parental alienation is hard to find on Google. They will give you the correct definitions but it is incredibly misleading.
The top results show physical violence only with two victims: battered women and battered wives.
Narcissistic personality disorder is incredibly manipulative. If you are reading this, you likely know all about the narcissistic abuse symptoms.
Here are the top Google results:
“having suffered repeated violence from a spouse, partner, or parent” Ex. a battered wife
“hurt by being repeatedly hit”
Ex. She set up a sanctuary for battered wives
“to hit (someone or something) repeatedly using heavy blows, as with a club or other heavy instrument”
“social welfare to subject (a person, especially a close relative living in the same house) to repeated physical violence”
Unfortunately, we need more awareness of what we are trying to achieve for the future. Putting people in power for child protection and they are only doing the opposite. Another failed system: Ministry of children and Family development.
You can read more of the abuse on my daughter by the Ministry when I was faced with narcissistic rage in court. It is not a competition, I have a daughter so you better believe I support Battered Women’s Support Services.
However, they have also made men look like something they aren’t in court by suddenly showing up as “support” on a trial date.
Broken system overlooking parental alienation for the true battered meaning
Everybody deserves support and there is no doubt about this. But at what point do we recognize the system giving the edge to one spiteful parent over another?
The Narcissist’s playground: family court. A Support worker throws the Father off guard. Who’s battering you? especially with a no-contact order between the parents? Oh right, the narcissistic triangulation.
I have seen this happen in many court cases, including mine. With that being said, I think it is safe to say that the trial is over before it started. Do they review the history of lies proven on paper? They don’t check anything their eyes refuse to see.
Unfortunately, there are a few cases of women who are being battered. For this reason, I am all for supporting the cause even if it is just one person.
Coincidentally, the battered meaning is the subtle parental alienation; a mask a Narcissist or narcissistic Mother can pull off with no sweat.
There should be more of an intake process. This is to prevent false allegations and a “one” up at a court date. However, I did eventually learn how to deal with a narcissist.
Narcissistic spouses are increasingly using support workers by their side in court to play the victim with parental alienation right in their corner.
Parental alienation and the impact on men’s health
Secondly, the physical abuse of women is a disadvantage. The physical strength of the two is much different. However, with the increase of covert narcissist traits in guardianship cases involving children, both genders are losing.
It’s not uncommon to see greed, power, entitlement and more with such malicious parents. Unfortunately, I have years battling delusional minds that have shown me the true meaning of narcissism
“I came in and she battered me. There was bleeding. My nose was bleeding, my shirt was ripped. When things had calmed down, she said: ‘Would you like a coffee?’ She said: ‘I’ll make us a coffee, you change your shirt’. “
It’s an unfortunate battle to see children against the other parent out of spite. It’s very easy to link the cause of depression in men with a narcissistic spouse. The key is finally learning the steps to disarm them and protect your children
Painful parental alienation that represents the battered meaning
I have felt the pain of mourning the loss of your children when they are still alive. It’s child abuse, and that is the battered meaning that hits home for me. I quickly learned how to outplay a narcissist.
Therefore, men have much less support and options to reconnect with their children for narcissistic abuse recovery and more needs to be done about parental alienation.
Gaining knowledge of Sociopath traits is also crucial as symptoms vary according to your situation. A narcissistic Sociopath is even more complex because it has all the disorder traits mixed into one person, and creates a disaster for everybody involved.
Battered Woman Syndrome and parental alienation
“Battered woman syndrome is serious, which is why it’s taken into account in homicide cases when women murder their abusive partners.”
It’s a lot easier for a woman to claim this abuse over a man. I mean, just look at the actual term.
Luckily, the World Health Organization is about to finally start recognizing parental alienation as child abuse.
For the record, parental alienation has always been part of family law. I have shown and fought for it but judges choose to ignore it:
“Section 4AB Family Law Act, 1975: Definition of family violence etc. (1) For the purposes of this Act, family violence means violent, threatening or other behavior by a person that coerces or controls a member of the person’s family (the family member ), or causes the family member to be fearful.
•(2) Examples of behavior that may constitute family violence include (but are not limited to): •(i) preventing the family member from making or keeping connections with his or her family, friends or culture”
Human rights for all of us no matter the gender.
Lastly, it is not about Father rights or Women’s rights. It’s about human rights. Mothers to Fathers, Grandparents and all extended families.
Nobody should have to suffer any kind of abuse. Our children are our future, and it’s time we work together. Hate will never help our children build their character for the future.
Keeping silent is just as much harm. We have to see how Battered Women’s Support Services rearrange their intake process; to not help the parental alienation family court is slowly starting to recognize.
Is it possible you are alienated from your children with no consequences on the abuser?
Why is it that the people chosen to protect our children from emotional harm continue to ignore parental alienation?
It seems that children are on the rise of having mental health issues because of the chaos of trying to work with narcissistic parents.
Judges at family court trials will tell you that they think there is alienation happening but quickly turn a blind eye. My former spouse and her flying monkeys, a former daycare, have tried numerous times to alienate me with an abusive triangulation.
False accusations, brainwashing, and manipulation on our daughter was the toughest part of my journey.
Fortunately, there is a huge breakthrough by the World Health Organization which has started a long-overdue new form of child abuse to finally be recognized. Yes, finally parental alienation and you can read more about the story on CTV news
Surviving Parental Alienation is an excellent book for resources that stopped child abuse on my daughter. I highly recommend getting it here