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Narcissistic supply | Drug-like withdrawal in narcissism



The covert narcissist’s addiction


Narcissistic supply is like a drug to a covert narcissist. 

Are you settling as just a drug for the Narcissist to use and abuse?


Perhaps they are your drug..it can go either way with a such twisted behavior.


However, This is exactly where they want you. 


Stumbling on your thoughts, questioning your sanity… the
same old song. 


This fuel is like breathing for these delusional creatures.


Narcissistic supply is explained by ExploringYourMind as:

narcissists need a person to become their supply, a source of the things they themselves can’t get on their own. This source of “provisions” turns into an extension of themselves or, in other words, a part of them.


narcissism and narcissist meaning


Understanding the meaning of narcissism is a long road, and you are likely to get a wide variety of answers.

I love the narcissist definition given by PsychologyToday:

Narcissism, in lay terms, basically means that a person is totally absorbed in self. The extreme narcissist is the center of his own universe. To an extreme narcissist, people are things to be used. It usually starts with a significant emotional wound or a series of them culminating in a major trauma of separation.

You could grow your knowledge in narcissism and have a little fun by, “poking the bear” with supply, but you will only end up witnessing the unforgiving narcissistic rage.

It is not a pretty sight, and you will regret inflicting narcissistic injury very quickly. 


It’s not just you learning that lesson as they will find a way to maliciously destroy everything you love. 

Anything that loves you.

You could be a child that gets bullied by their parent for supply, or a parent being bullied by the other parent using the children as a sadistic weapon in an unforgiving war.

There are plenty of situations for a Narc chasing this drug-like attachment to their death.

With that being said, supply always runs out.

Why?

because it doesn’t matter how much you give them, it is never good enough.

The more you try, the more you will fall.





Sociopath traits


Sociopath traits happen when a Narcissist loses supply


A covert narcissist is all about the drama with narcissistic supply, but they are much more into it than you might actually know.

Like all addicts, when the drug is finished they need to keep the high going by any means necessary. 

It’s clockwork. 

Much like a narcissistic sociopath, unforgiving adult child narcissistic behavior comes to light.

An abusive cycle.

When the narcissistic supply runs out, they already have another one ready to go. 

Fresh meat who is currently being love-bombed just like you were at one point.

They’re likely done with you and have found a new victim that has no clue what’s coming to them.

Don’t bother alerting this person, or even trying to sabotage whatever you know is coming to them.

You will only be buying into the manipulative scheme of a Narcissist to turn everything on you like you’re the cause of a narcissistic relationship.

There are two main sources involved with a narcissistic supply addiction.

1. Primary supply

  • In the public eye, or private from their spouse so they won’t be exposed for cheating.
  • Shows a ton of admiration during the “lovebombing stage”

Primary sources are commonly:

  • A spouse
  • Children

You might think that supply is always positive towards a Narcissist, but it can be negative as well. 

They love when a spouse is stuck with the hate-love relationship, children are easy targets for a narcissistic mother.

A high is a high for them, whatever keeps their insecure image deep down inside for nobody to see.  


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narcissistic mother’s addiction to the supply

2. Secondary supply


  • Spouse or ex-spouse
  • Family
  • Friends
  • Business partners
  • Co-workers
  • Acquaintances

Secondary supply should be looked at as “high stature” to the public. 

This is so the grandiose Narcissist can have the appearance of only being around, “people like them”

If anybody in this source turns against them in any way, they will be discarded immediately. 

In this case, parental alienation will be at full speed to destroy any relationship this person has with their children.

This is usually the case with narcissistic spouses as reality sets in of their partner’s narcissistic personality disorder symptoms

It is not uncommon to see a person attempt to learn how to deal with a narcissist by believing that it can be done by exposing the devious mask of shame.

You can expect false allegations, protection orders, smear campaigns, and anything to keep you away from spreading the truth.



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How to stop a narcissist from causing narcissistic abuse


You don’t.

You focus on yourself and get it in your head that these people will be against you regardless if they see the truth.

With that being said, all of these bullies didn’t get the care, support or love from their care-takers during their childhood.

Now they are on a mission for the rest of their life to prove they are more worthy than everybody else.

Those poor souls need to feel better about themselves by using these pathetic tactics, often at others’ expense.

Let me tell you from experience: paying these blood-sucking creatures no mind kills them inside.

We all slip up, believe me. 

However, watching them look for a supply that isn’t there is simply much more gratifying.

No supply for you. Run along now!

You were chosen by an evil parent to drown beside them in their delusional world of narcissism.

Why? because they were jealous of your empathy.

They wanted to take that from you.  How could you forget your special defence mechanism?

Killing ’em with kindness

Kiss Narcissism goodbye

 
 


 
 

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Narcissistic Sociopath | Mixed traits

What are the traits of a narcissistic Sociopath?

It’s much easier to spot a narcissistic sociopath on TV than it is in real life. 

You know, those dangerous serial killers running around with machetes?

If you are reading this right now… you probably already know it is the complete opposite. 

They are masterminds of disguise and manipulation.

It’s much more complex to become a narcissistic sociopath.

With that being said, a few traits you notice in a friend or family member won’t be enough for them to claim this title.

Let’s break down the two disorders that have to mix in order for somebody to be an actual sadistic narcissistic Sociopath.



Narcissistic Personality Disorder

  • Lack of empathy
  • Constant need for admiration
  • Entitled
  • Arrogant

Antisocial Personality Disorder

  • Disregard for others
  • Aggressive
  • Lack of remorse
  • Irresponsible in their workplace
  • Deceitful

It is not common to see, but people can definitely be diagnosed with those two disorders.

It is not as common to see, but people can absolutely be diagnosed with both disorders.


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Definition of a narcissistic sociopath

A combination of a lack of empathy for others plus a grandiose self-admiration receives the diagnosis of a narcissistic sociopath. They can use other people, exploit them and then dump or dispose of them when they’re done, without feeling any guilt whatsoever.

Nadia Khan – Better Help



How to hurt a Narcissistic Sociopath?


Unfortunately, the manipulators do not stop the narcissistic abuse. 

It can be subtle.  Pay attention to what your children say to you, and act on it immediately.

Keep in mind, all rage will go to your children because you cannot be phased anymore by this demon.

You must teach your children how to put the armor of defense against this disorder, but you may have to suit them up along the way.

That means studying sociopath traits to know the difference between each personality.

Children are very smart, and all they need is one parent to look up to. 

It may seem at times they are against you, but be patient and watch as they always come back to the positive parent.

You provide the “place of protection” from all the negative talk they have been hearing, and let me tell you from experience:

The bond becomes much bigger when they realize they have that with you. 

However, it’s bittersweet.

I remember when my daughter was being turned against me and I couldn’t wait for her to resent her Mother. 

Now that it’s happening…

it’s heartbreaking to see a relationship crumble for nothing.



How do I deal with a narcissistic Sociopath?

They will suck all the happiness and joy you have in your life.

you don’t.

You will be depressed day after day trying to fix somebody that can’t be fixed. 

If you can turn around and walk away, just do it.
Unfortunately, when children are involved it isn’t so easy to walk away. 

If this is the case, you must protect your children from the subtle abuse immediately.

It’s not easy to ignore the narcissistic abuse, and inflicting opening deep childhood wounds is the main cause of child abuse.

This happens when you invest your wasted time in getting revenge on a narcissist.

I call it “damage control” which is a daily battle with my daughter’s narcissistic Mother and looking back, I wish I educated myself on the consequences.


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Narcissist co-parenting


Co-parenting with an egotistical self-involved person means to just be a team member in spite of them. 

This is crucial to protecting your children from certain rage explosions.
Attacks will come in various ways, such as:

Gaslighting
Smear campaigns
Narcissistic triangulation
Parental alienation

You will have to be tough and always think of your children. 

We know what happens when people are raised by Narcissists so that should be enough for you to be the better parent.

Of course, going no contact might not be possible. 

This is why using the Gray Rock Method has been my golden ticket. 

This enables you to communicate, but with no emotion.

Narcissistic Sociopaths will eventually become bored with your lack of emotion. 

Accordingly, dull responses will minimize the abuse that has trickled down to your children.

The main goal is to, “stroke the ego” of the other parent, but not too much. 

Set your boundaries, without telling them you have set boundaries.

A Narcissist feeds off of drama, manipulation, and of course getting you upset with their ridiculous demands. 

They love things to be easy bait, so if they have to work for it they will slowly leave you alone.

With that being said, they will be on to their next victim if they aren’t already. 

This is where your children will be in the next phase of abuse, the new partner and more parental alienation of pushing you out of the picture.


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Covert narcissist traits | Unforgiving behavior

Covert narcissistic personality  

Different levels of a narcissistic personality can range from less severe to extremely dangerous, and people with narcissistic behavior can be toxic for your mental health.   

Understanding covert narcissist traits is the most common to see when people fail to recover from narcissistic abuse.

Here are three of the most common :

1. Exhibitionist (Grandiose) Narcissist

When I first looked up covert narcissist traits for narcissistic personality this did not fit my former spouse.

However, I am happy that I kept reading into it.

The knowledge I was able to take in has helped me with narcissist parenting, which helped me put armor on our daughter and shielding her from the abuse.

Exhibitionists are common for the following:

  • No lack of insecurity
  • Want to be admired
  • They feel they are better than everyone around them, including friends and family. No shame, no regrets.
  • You are likely to know a bully, or perhaps a friend that is always talking down on somebody. Maybe even in your family. This narcissistic personality is very common and easy to spot.

2. Closet (covert) Narcissist

Unlike the former, a covert narcissist parent will want to be associated with somebody whom they admire

*It is important to understand how to protect you and your children from a frightening blowout*

3. Toxic (Malignant) Narcissistic Personality

  • The most dangerous, and abusive of all associated disorders
  • Show no empathy
  • No boundaries, known commonly to use children against their former spouses
  • Court is their playground with the ability to manipulate judges and lawyers
  • Gray rock method should be used when children are involved

Covert Narcissist Mother Traits

Firstly, while studies show that men are more narcissistic than women, covert narcissist traits in Mothers are rapidly becoming just as common.

And if you know anything about family court, you will know how children are pawns in a nasty court battle.

Mental health issues from this horrible upbringing are brought to adulthood, affecting their social relationships and even their work life.

covert narcissist

With that being said, there are many different levels of narcissism. 

Here are a few ways that covert narcissist traits will cause a Mother will abuse her kids:

Scapegoat

  • This abuse is the covert Mother living her past childhood through her narcissist child of being told she was never good enough. 

Neglect and two-faced.

  • Plays as a “Super Mom” in the public eye, but behind closed door pays little to no attention to their child.
  • Will often leave the child with other people because they feel their time is more important

Physical abuse

  • Can also re-live and imprint their unfortunate childhood with biting, scratching, punching, and more
  • It becomes subtle as soon as there is cause for a covert narcissist Mother being exposed. 

Emotional abuse

  • Blamed for everything
  • Teaches children to lie
  • Brainwashing 
  • Parental alienation

narcissistic personality types and the subtle chaos that is caused only means you may never find out that you are, or were, being abused by a self-involved manipulator.

On the other hand, you may just refuse to accept that you are being abused at all. 

Gaslighting parents have used this emotional abuse on their children for years because it usually goes unnoticed.

The reason for this is because it is extremely hard to see it happening to you. 

A Narcissist can make it seem like everything is your fault, leaving you in the dark and trying to help this person to see your way.


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This is what they want.

they have betrayed you and made you a victim of your empathy. 

With that being said, I didn’t understand the narcissistic meaning when I was told my child’s Mother is likely a Narcissist.

I looked it up later that day and it still didn’t fit her criteria as she wasn’t that “cocky” nor did she have much of an ego.

However, reality set in when I looked further into symptoms of narcissistic abuse, and the different levels of manipulation. 

For years I had been feeding a narcissistic mother syndrome disorder. 

Her supply to feed off of and she ate very well.

Understanding the difference between sociopath traits relative to your situation is crucial for protecting your child from the sadistic, and cold actions of a narcissistic personality.

If you feel you are dealing with somebody that has a mix of traits associated with two different disorders, it’s my advice to read up on a narcissistic Sociopath.


Research of narcissistic personality

More research on mental disorders associated with narcissism is crucial.

It is extremely destructive and it is ruining our society as a whole.

Masking the true battered meaning as the delusions enable people to use subtle parental alienation to create child abuse.


Narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) involves a pattern of self-centered, arrogant thinking and behavior, a lack of empathy and consideration for other people, and an excessive need for admiration. Others often describe people with NPD as cocky, manipulative, selfish, patronizing, and demanding. This way of thinking and behaving surfaces in every area of the narcissist’s life: from work and friendships to family and love relationships.
Melinda Smith, M.A. – HealthGuide.org


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The history of a manipulating mental disorder

The earliest heard about narcissistic personality and the sense of self-involvement is found in ancient Greek mythology, further explained by Kendra Cherry – author at Very Well Mind

Narcissistic personality disorder has its earliest roots in ancient Greek mythology. According to the myth, Narcissus was a handsome and proud young man. Upon seeing his reflection on the water for the first time, he became so enamored that he could not stop gazing at his own image. He remained at the water’s edge until he eventually wasted to death.

During the 1950s and 1960s, psychoanalysts Otto Kernberg and Heinz Kohut helped spark more interest in narcissism. In 1967, Kernberg described “narcissistic personality structure.” He developed a theory of narcissism that suggested three major types: normal adult narcissism, normal infantile narcissism, and pathological narcissism that can be of different types.


Adding to the above, in 1980 the narcissistic personality was finally recognized in the third edition of the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorder and criteria were established for its diagnosis.

However, very little has changed since that time.

Unfortunately, it’s hard to diagnose or even point fingers at somebody for the abuse. 

Not only is it subtle, but it’s also not taken seriously.



 

Different types of narcissistic personality

Not only have I experienced how delusional people with this mental disorder can be, but I have also experienced the child abuse that comes with it.

The system is unlikely to help you, and you will only waste money on lawyers pretending to care.

Protecting you and your children from the covert narcissist traits

Lastly, I had to learn the hard way of going about these demons. 

My former spouse was able to have a lot of her flying monkeys stand before the courtroom and make false accusations against me.

Subtle parental alienation from my child’s daycare and even false ministry calls to paint a bad picture.
Once you have wiped up all the blood off of yourself from being kicked down for no reason, it won’t take long before your children start being abused.



Why? 
Because you exposed the Narcissist for who they are, and you are not feeding them their sadistic narcissistic supply addiction anymore.  Now you must receive a delusional payback through your children.

Contact us now if you are going through this, because minimizing and pinpointing the abuse is best to start early.

trust me.

A manipulating, bitter, spiteful, and out-of-control Narcissist will do anything to keep you from your flesh and blood. 

They will do it with a smile.
Don’t wait for them to change, it’s not in their plans to get back with an ex 

Protect your mental health, and listen to your children when they tell you something is wrong
You are not dealing with anybody normal.

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